Editor’s Note: Professional runner Molly Bookmyer has seen both sides of a serious medical diagnosis. She’s sharing with us how she used her experience as a patient to help her husband after he was diagnosed with testicular cancer. She’s also sharing some tips on how caregivers can navigate when their loved one receives a cancer diagnosis.
As an athlete, I quickly learned the importance of having a support system. Running has provided me with some of my highest highs, but also some really low points. The only way I have been able to cope with the disappointment that is inevitable in sports is by having a sound team around me who listens, cares and helps me find the good in adversity.
My partner Eric was diagnosed with cancer in September, and started treatments in October. After two surgeries, I saw that in order to help Eric recover and beat cancer as soon as possible, we needed a team.
Who was a part of our team:
- Family who visited in the hospital to lift Eric’s spirits – Friends who always made sure our freezer was stocked full of meals
- Coworkers who mailed a plethora of get well cards
- Cooper, our dog, who was always ready for a snuggle whenever we needed one
When we found out we were going to have to spend Thanksgiving in the hospital, we were initially disappointed. But our team made sure we did not feel alone. Family came to visit, we watched football on TV in the hospital room and had plenty of Thanksgiving treats.
Ever since I was little, I have been involved in sports and have seen the value of having a strong team. I’ve learned to ask for help and have been grateful to help others when they need it. I also understand that sometimes, there’s worry that seeking support may be interpreted as weak, but I assure you that is not the case. The strongest people I have met are the ones who surround themselves with people they trust.
Here are some tips for building your own support team:
- Share with family and friends on how they can help (rides, meals, visits, etc.)
- Listen and ask questions with your team of oncologists, nurses and doctors
- Take advantage of patient services
- Be open to joining cancer support groups
- Find more resources for building your support team on the OhioHealth Wellness Blog
Because of our support system, we are able to keep making plans after Eric’s cancer diagnosis. We have traveled the country, I have qualified for the 2020 and 2024 Olympic Marathon Trials and we have built our home in Columbus, Ohio.
Everyone has a support system they can lean into whether that be family, friends, coworkers or training groups. OhioHealth not only has amazing oncologists to support you through this journey, but also caring staff and comprehensive patient services.They are a great resource for patients and their families and are always willing to go the extra mile. To learn why OhioHealth is the best choice for cancer care, visit OhioHealth.com/KeepMakingPlans.
